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I have many foreign friends and when they visit Thailand they have always asked me the same question, to help find them a decent Thai woman. My first reaction is generally to laugh out loud, as I’m surprised to not only hear the same questions from different people, but that they are asking me to find them a girl from Thailand. Naturally, I follow by a quirky “nope!” as I don’t wish to introduce anyone of my own Thai girlfriends.
It is not because I’m a bad person, I have my reasons. Nor is it because decent Thai women are hard to find. It’s mainly due to the fact that I don’t know how serious these friends of mine really are? Whether they are ready for a relationship or whether they are actually interested in finding a long-term partner to love and to care for? Yes, you can call me protective; my girls need to be taken care of!
I haven’t heard the last of these requests. I do still get asked by all types of people, repeatedly. This question was quite a shock to be honest, the first time I was asked. Though now I’ve been asked so many times, this question has been bouncing around in my head. The question of why do foreigners like Thai women? Or even, why would foreigners choose Thai wives as their last lover of their lives? These are some big questions but not without merit. We’ve all heard about Thailand and the stories of Thai people being kind, humble, and loving to smile. But is that enough? Are these qualities enough to make foreigners fall in love with us and to stop their hearts wandering? Of course not!
I’ll be walking you through the reasons I believe Thai girls are unique, breaking this into 2 major parts:
The first part is the 5 major characteristics most Thai women possess. In my opinion these are worthy qualifications and are difficult to find from other nations.
The second part is to explore each of the 5 regions, unravelling the common themes and personalities you’re likely to find depending on the region one of our girls were born and raised.
I will also be giving you an insight into the deeper relationship questions you may have and also some pointers on dating do’s and don’ts and the pros and cons of being with Thai women.
THAI WOMEN ARE EUPHEMISTIC
For generations we girls have been taught to be polite and have good manners from birth. We have learned to speak softer and end our sentences very politely with the word “Kha”. As this is added to almost all our sentences, we’re almost always being polite. Though, it’s not like we don’t swear at all, we do! It’s just generally not in public places and would only use profanity with our close friends or whenever someone rubs us the wrong way like an unexpected encounter with rude Chinese tourists.
For most of us girls, our parents grew up in wooden houses and it was these wooden houses that we were raised in. Ever since we were little, we were asked to walk around the house slowly and softly. Essentially tip toeing. We weren’t allowed to run around and play loudly inside as the running would shake the house itself and the noise would pierce the thin walls disturbing everyone within. Even upstairs, we would need to walk with the balls of our feet placed down to the floor first, followed by our heels to not cause a ruckus. This is how we were asked to walk, unbeknownst we were being asked to catwalk around the bedroom during our childhood!
Our Thai culture teaches us that our head is the most sacred part of the body, where our feet are considered the most unclean and least important part. This is part of Thai etiquette and is ingrained not only in our brains but also in our behaviour. You should never see a Thai girl with our feet up high like on tables. I would say it is also rare to find one of us with our bottoms sitting on the table as we were told and grew up putting them where they belong – on chairs.
Thai girls are not only euphemistic in speech; it is part of our culture and reflects in our behaviour whether we are at home, or in public.
THAI WOMEN ARE AFFABLE
Thailand is often called the “Land of Smiles”, I believe this is not only due to the fascinating culture but also because of this country’s friendly people. Especially the women. Upon visiting our country you may have noticed how approachable and pleasant to talk to Thai girls can be. I’m not talking about specific tourist hot spots; I’m talking about the majority of Thai girls you would find if you were to travel this country, through all our 5 regions.
We tend to smile most of the time, with a positive outlook on life. Unless we’re having a really really bad day, of cause. If you’ve tried talking to us, whether it was to ask for directions or even a random conversation to practice your Thai. More times than not I bet one of us girls responded kindly and tried their best to help. If you’ve found some of us to back off or become very timid, please don’t be disheartened. The main reason is we’re just shy. It’s comes naturally to us.
Although it may not seem it, Thai women are affable. We’re friendly and easy to talk to. Don’t let language be a barrier between us, as a smile goes a long way and is universally understood. You might be lucky and get a few laughs in the process but be aware…
Thai Women’s Personality Traits
Thai girls have numerous personality traits and while some are endearing others can be deceptive and problematic.
Here are just a few of the many personality traits.
- The smile
A smile can mean many things and this is especially true of Thai Women. For you and me a smile usually means someone is happy or being playful but for a Thai Women a smile can not only tell a story it can also end a relationship or start a war.
There is the disproving smile, this one to some Westerners can look like a cheeky smirk but in Thailand it can relate the message that you’re in big trouble when you get home or it can let someone know that the Thai woman is not impressed with something you have done or said and doesn’t want to get into an argument about it in public so for now she lets her smile do the arguing but rest assured you will be in a world of trouble at a later point in time.
- A cool calm demeanour
Again this one leads on form the smile characteristic. Most Thais but especially Thai women do not like to show their emotions in public. Why make a show of yourself when you can just crack one of those smiles I mentioned and then go hell for leather when you are alone with your target.
- Thai Women say one thing but mean something completely different
This one is pretty standard for women the world over but a bit more relevant for Thai women. Back in the West you may ask a woman if she enjoyed a movie and she may say yes she did because she doesn’t want a long debate as to why she didn’t like a movie that you were practically worshipping. Now take that trait to the extreme and you have a typical Thai woman.
A Thai women will rarely if ever tell you something that she thinks will upset you, now this is all good and well if you’re in a two week relationship that’s probably going to end once you vacation but if you’re married to the woman and this is let to continue week after week after week then at some point that volcano will erupt and God or Buddha help you if you are not a safe distance from the melting point.
A prime first hand example of this is the following, my friend never let her boyfriend know that she really hated the way he Wai’d (a Thai greeting done to older people or people in positions that deserve respect like a monk or a teacher etc.
Now to Wai people in Thailand is normal and expected as it shows respect and not doing it to the right people at the right time can make you very unpopular very quickly. The problem with her boyfriend was that he did this to everyone. He did it to children, to waiters, to homeless people you name it he bowed and Wai’d them. Sometimes he would do it several times to the same person during the same meeting or conversation.
He thought he was being polite while she and everyone else thought he was either ignorant of Thai traditions or just a complete imbecile and she always just smiled at him with her disapproving smile or told him he was silly which he took as a term of affection. This went on for almost six months until one day she exploded and hit the poor boyfriend with a barrage of abuse which left him dumfounded and angry. He then proceeded to scream at her for not telling him his mistake sooner to which she erupted telling him he should have paid attention to everyone else and he would have noticed his overzealous delivery. The final outcome of this was not pleasant and let’s just say her new boyfriend doesn’t have the same issues.
- Loan = gift?
A Thai women will never remind you that she owes you something. Now this is not something malicious or underhanded it’s just the way it is. If you remind her then usually she will pay you back straight away but leave it to her and you can kiss your money or whatever else you loaned goodbye. - Mai Pen Rai
This short little term is probably the most used term in Thailand and definitely the most used term by Thai Women. Simply translated it means don’t worry or no problem. Then again, the cool calm demeanour and can be delivered with the “smile”. When you hear this term you need to consider all the surrounding factors that led to this comment because while many times it really does mean no problem and the person is cool with whatever happened, many times it really means what people in the West commonly refer to as “Bite me” or “kiss my ass.”
This term is the epitome of the Thai woman calmness trait and needs a lot more consideration then you could ever imagine. So be warned.
THAI WOMEN SHOW GRATITUDE TO PARENTS
I can guarantee that in this country, everyone shows gratitude to their parents. This is taught to us both through education and religion. As we grow older, this becomes our responsibility. It is everyone’s responsibility to take care of their parents; otherwise society will punish you for being disrespectful.
Our parents are the ones who showed us how to be euphemistic; our parents were the ones who taught us our values. While growing up in their home, our parents were our God. We we’re taught that to be successful in life, we need to respectful to our family and the ones living with us in our home.
One of the main differences between Asian culture and Western culture is in Asia, and especially in Thailand we celebrate children and we celebrate elders, rather than celebrating independence. Asian families usually live together. Yes that’s right, even grandparents, all under the same roof.
Growing up with both parents and grandparents means we have had exposure to this customary code of polite behaviour at home on a daily basis. To be respectful to our elders, we would need to stop and let them pass whenever we bumped into them. If we were walking into a room and they were present, we would need to bow down while passing them. If they were sitting on the floor, we would need to kneel and crawl past them as a sign of respect. When sitting in the same location, we were not allowed to be in a position higher than our elders, they had to always be higher. Most of the times we would need to move our bodies to a lower position out of respect. We would never ask them to move on our behalves.
For us girls, it was quite tough growing up. We were not allowed to play in the house and so would play outside with the neighbours and local community. Obviously there would be boys around and they were always allowed to have fun. Whenever we mimicked the boys, us girls would get in trouble as doing so would undermine our standards. Our elders were always tough on us, sharing the teaching from their generation down to us. For example, we were not allowed to whistle. To this day I still cannot whistle. We were told that by whistling we would be performing the same act as the under-educated boys and was something girls should not do.
I may be alone here, but a quick tip you can try is to ask a Thai girl to whistle. If she can’t you can be pretty sure she had a traditional upbringing. One at least where she was close to her elders and grew up with the same traditions passed down for her previous generations. Either that, or she’s a fast learner!
#4 – THAI WOMEN ARE CONSIDERATE
Not only have we been brought up to care for our elders, we were also taught to respect our partners. We take care of our lovers and cover all the bases, even in the finer details. Accommodating other people and taking care of our loved ones is of vital importance to us Thai girls.
Looking at Western culture, being independent is how people are brought up. Western parents encourage this, it’s part of the culture and part of their upbringing. In recent times, there has also been an increase to encourage girls to be more confident, be more outspoken and to aggressively pursue their ideals and goals. In my opinion this has led for many women from that side of the globe to become overly competitive and more masculine. I feel they have lost some of their feminine touch and desirability.
Where here in Thailand, us girls were brought up to spread harmony and to respect our partners and to support them. I’m not trying to say that we are subservient or that we are quite and docile creatures that never voice our opinions. What I am saying is that we are not likely to challenge you on every issue that pops up. We wouldn’t plan to embarrass or challenge you publicly. Instead we will let you know in private, in a peaceful and respectful way of our disapproval over any issue.
Thai girls are always considerate to the needs and feeling of others. We are considerate to our family, our friends and our colleagues. We’re also considerate towards our new friends which would include you.
THAI WOMEN ARE ORGANIZED HOUSEWIVES
In this modern age, we girls have accepted that we are part of the workforce. Not only are we working women, we also take care of the house and family members within. This is an important task for us and is our duty, it’s always there floating around at the back of our minds.
Most Thai girls would have seen their own mothers successfully juggling the day to day tasks, bringing up several kids and run a household without the help of our bleeding edge electrical appliances. In all honestly, we know how important it is to maintain the home, one way or another we will find a means to have the home maintained for our family members. When it is our turn to be in charge of the household, we will make it a priority to ensure everything is organized.
We wouldn’t demand you to do your “fair share” once you’ve arrived back exhausted after a long day at work, we especially wouldn’t nag you endlessly as you’ve just entered through the door. I say this, but it’s also true and certainly greatly appreciated for any given help that’s voluntary and especially performed with a smile. It’s not something we’d demand loudly on a daily basis as we do understand.
Whether we are out working during the day, or at home taking care of the kids. You can rest assured that the house would be organized and food is at the ready. We grew up in a warm loving home and will do our best to create the same atmosphere for our partner.
Part one is complete, and I’ve provided an overview of the 5 main traits I believe every Thai girl owns. How does it sound so far? Now let’s have a look at the 5 different regions here in Thailand and how they relate.
THAI WOMEN FROM NORTHERN THAILAND
The North of Thailand is bordered by Myanmar, China and Laos. The terrain is mostly mountainous and flat areas, with a total area covering around one quarter of Thailand. The majority of people who live here are farmers. With that said, it’s true that residents and people who grew up in the region, are people who grew up with nature. It’s no wonder that they seem to be more skilled at Art, Music, and all other handmade skills when compared to the other regions.
Northern girls are tender-hearted. As you may already know, Thai people are all about peace, ideally at least. Northern girls will surprise you when you find out how calm and how peaceful they actually can be. They are very gentle and you might fall in love with them easily.
THAI WOMEN FROM NORTHEASTERN THAILAND (ISSAN)
The North-eastern region covers the biggest area in Thailand. It takes up one third of the whole country. This region is bordered by Laos to the North and Cambodia to the East. The Issan people believe that staying in a group is better than being alone. They believe that having more people to stay with, lessens the limitations you will encounter. Staying with other people and helping each other out is most likely the best solution.
That’s why it’s often you will see people from this region helping each other to do things in a group such as building houses, temples, schools or roads. Even dredging water sources together whenever you pay a visit. People from here are also farmers and love to have fun. They love to find joy in any situation, no matter how hard life can get. The girls here seem to be easy going and have a lot more patience than other regions. Girls from this region do not give up easily.
At this point, you could imagine that if you found a girl from this region and married her, you could probably guess what it will be like? That’s right; it would be a lot of fun!
THAI WOMEN FROM CENTRAL THAILAND
This part is a centre of trades, politics, economy, and arts of Thailand. The area was the heartland of the great Ayutthaya Kingdom, and still today considered the dominant area of Thailand. In this region you will find t capital city of Bangkok, which also explains why this region is the most populated region in the country. It’s safe to say that there is a lot more choice here, though without a doubt you will find many businesswomen here easily.
People who originate from this area tend to love freedom more than others. As this is a trending theme, the girls here could be considered the most independent if compared against the other regions. As Bangkok has become more and more westernized in the recent decades, the new generation has been influenced by this western culture and have more self-motivation and more determination to accomplish their goals on their own which is a totally different outlook if we were to compare with north-eastern girls. Up in the north-eastern region, girls are more likely to group together and are better as a team player role.
If you are looking for a girl who can take care of herself and does not demand too much, perhaps you will find her here.
THAI WOMEN FROM EASTERN THAILAND
In this region the terrain is flat with low range mountains. This region only has one country on its borders which is Cambodia. They also have a coastal area that is flat and curved and full of small islands. Some of the islands are well known, you may have heard of Koh Sichang, Koh Lan, Koh Samet or Koh Chang to name a few. The occupations in this sector are mainly horticultural crops, fisheries, and travel businesses. Its economy has grown tremendously because a deep sea port was built at Laem Chabang. There are large oil refineries and also industrial estates for overseas production. This is also the centre of gemstone cutting.
People here are very kind and relaxed. They like to start their own businesses, love freedom but they are not competitive when compared to central girls. This region is quite playful, especially when they talk. They often add additional words to their sentences to make the entire message softer. Girls from this region are very sweet indeed.
SOUTHERN WOMEN
The South is a region with a long, spiked surface stretching into the ocean blocking the Indian Ocean on the west side and the South China Sea on the East. The southern terrain consists of plains, forests, mountains, beaches, waterfalls, caves, lakes and islands on both sides of the sea. The southern population is engaged in agriculture, coffee farming, rubber plantations, coconut plantations, fruit and cashew nut orchards.
They also do deep sea and coastal fishing, shrimp and pearl farming, and handicrafts which is consistent with the lifestyle of Eastern people. Though, they don’t have the same personalities. Most of the people down south are strong, intelligent, committed and active. They speak directly and sometimes it may sound harsh and angry because they can be loud. Deep down inside they are very kind and relaxed, just like Eastern people and actually easy going just like North-eastern people. Not only that, they love their families just like North-eastern people do but are deeper hearted.
These girls are proud to be southern people because of their strong relationships with their relatives, and they aren’t scared to take any risks. They will give their all without holding anything back. If you are not ready to settle down, please don’t play with their hearts. It may be difficult to win the heart of a Southern girl, but if you are so lucky to do so, please do it sincerely.
So now that you know a little about the various regions and their inhabitants let’s look a bit deeper into a topic most of you want to know about.
THE PHYSICAL SIDE OF A RELATIONSHIP WITH A THAI WOMAN
Thai Women are outwardly shy and for many of them they have been raised to be seen and not heard. They are quite prudish in public and will never talk about sex or romance outside of the bedroom. Most will not hold your hand in public and they definitely will not kiss you while others are watching. This may sound like the beginning of a doomed relationship but once you get over this part of their culture and get to know a girl you will find that they are extremely loving and very willing to please their partner. It may take a little time to bring this side of them to the forefront but once you do you will find them to be just as much fun as any Western woman and far more loyal.
Take some time to get to know the woman and don’t expect too much too quickly. If you want to come to Thailand for a quick bit of sex and a no strings attached week of fun and frolics then there are many places you can go to get that but if you want a long term relationship with a women who will love you for who you are even if that person is a middle aged balding over weight guy then have patience and you won’t be disappointed. Thai women are keen to please and love to make you happy. When they find a man that they feel comfortable with they will do everything in their power to keep the relationship fresh and long lasting.
You will also find that once she is comfortable with you and has made you her own she will start to be more affectionate in public as she will no longer feel that people are judging her but in fact will now be envious of her as she parades you around on her arm like first prize in the Thai lottery. After all the only thing a Thai women loves more than being coy and cautious is to be cocky and proud especially when she has a Farang by her side knowing that most of her friends will never have the good fortune to experience the same feeling.
Yes it’s a little shallow but remember any one of these women given half the chance would do exactly the same thing and feel no shame in doing so. A Farang is the gold standard in Thailand. Most Thai women would give their right arm to have a Farang on the left one and when you consider most Thai women will never leave the Province let alone the country then you can understand why the Farang is so highly prized.
Once you have reached this level of acceptance Thai women are just as adventurous in the bedroom as their Western counterparts. They love to try new things (let’s not forget that most things in the intimacy spectrum are new things) so it’s an adventure you can both make together and have fun experimenting and learning each other’s likes and dislikes. The main difference between Thai women and the women of the west is that Thai women are far more loyal and far less likely to have an affair or leave you because your lovely black head of hair has turned grey. Thai women don’t let physical appearance dictate and rule their lives. Now that’s not an excuse to be a slob but should your body not remain as it used to when you get older its far less likely you will be upgraded to a newer model when married to a Thai women.
That is of course as long as you take care of her.
This is where many Farang men fail in a relationship with women of a different culture especially Thais. In Thai culture family is everything and that can more often than not mean not just a Mum or Dad but also a Grandparent or two and a Brother, a Cousin, an Aunt and a few distant relations.
Now before you slam the door behind you and put the pedal to the metal at the thought of that just remember how life works back home. The fact that you’re in Thailand suggests that you have left home and family (if you have any) behind. So who is taking care of your parents? Who is taking care of your grandparents?
My guess is that if they are still alive they are fending for themselves at home and in a lot of cases may be very lonely or in worst case situations they are in a nursing home being mistreated by complete strangers who treat them like a commodity for a monthly fee.
Now look at Thailand, the family unit is extremely strong. Everyone takes care of their elders and in turn the hope is that your offspring will do the same for you in your twilight years. I don’t know about you but I know I would rather be close to my family and have people who have my back in times of crisis then waking up one day to an empty house and worrying how I was going to shuffle to the local store to buy a bottle of milk and some bread.
To add to that the stress of wondering who would bring me to hospital if I fell ill or being scared to open the front door in case it was some scam artist trying to take advantage of me well it’s really a no brainer. Thailand wins hands down so don’t worry too much about half the village showing up to meet you and realising that most of them are related and just take it for what it is, a close knit family unit that will do anything to protect their own.
So treat them well. Respect them and give them the love you would want in return.
TAKING CARE OF YOUR THAI WOMAN
Now once you have gotten over the shock of the extended family system it’s time to consider how to take care of your own wife/girlfriend and her needs. A Thai woman doesn’t ask for much. First and foremost they want security. They want to feel like they never have to worry about putting food on the table or having shoes to wear. They don’t want to live like royalty but they definitely don’t want to be poor.
They will work very hard for you be it in the home or in an outside job and all they want is that feeling that they are at least as good as everyone else and at best they are comfortable and have all the basics in life. If they can get a few luxuries along the way then this is a dream come true and they will love you and treat you with more love and loyalty then you could ever imagine.
Next up is to simply love them. All too often in Thailand a women will end up in a relationship with an abusive or dismissive Thai man. Unfortunately in Thailand men aren’t known for their compassion or their gentle nature. Many are quick to use their fists and some are likely to cause serious mental and physical injury to their partners. They don’t care about satisfying a woman and really just have them to make babies and clean house. I am not saying all Thai men are like this but for sure it’s a large majority. So go ahead of the curve all you have to do is be a nice guy. Treat them well and love them unconditionally which really when you think about it is not a lot to ask for getting so much in return.
Now one very important thing I need to mention at this point. Listen closely as it’s the key to a healthy relationship with Thai women. This single piece of advice is worth more than all the Tea in China and is something only seasoned professionals in the world of Thai dating will know.
Are you ready? Here it is.
Don’t hog the remote control and always make sure you have Wi-Fi or phone data wherever you live. These two simple tips will make your life very simple and will give our wife more happiness than you can imagine. All joking aside, Thai women love to watch TV. They are more than happy to snuggle up beside you and watch a movie or a soap opera. If you can get some of them in Thai or with Thai subtitles then you are made for life.
Add to that an internet connection where they can watch Thai shows on the many streaming sites or listen to YouTube and life becomes so easy. Also remember that if you decide to live abroad a decent phone and an internet connection allows them to stay in contact with family and friends. With more and more Thais gaining access to Skype or Facebook they will avoid becoming lonely and sad while away from home and a happy Thai women makes for a happy Farang man.
Next up in the things to do to take care of your Thai women list is to find them a Thai supplies store in your area. More and more these days Thai food is becoming increasingly popular but it’s also becoming increasingly expensive outside Thailand so it’s always a good idea to find an Asia market within driving distance so she can stock up on all those ingredients that come so easy back in Thailand. Things that grow on the farm at the side of the road in Thailand can sometimes be hard to come by elsewhere. If you were to eat out every other day you would need a small fortune so find the market and get shopping.
You will find nearly everything she needs and as most Thai women love to cook you will have a feed fit for a king waiting for you whenever you’re hungry. This will make her feel more at home and also keep her happy as the second thing Thai women love to do after watching tv is to eat Thai food. The good news is that most of it is low in fat so there is no fear of your beautiful wife expanding like many of the Western counterparts. Thai women tend to keep their figure very well which is good news for the more shallow of you out there.
Products like ginger, chillies, fish sauce etc. are easy to find in your local Tesco but things like chicken feet or pig’s blood may not be so easy to find outside of an Asian store.
Now while on the topic of food, there is one sure way to please your lady. It’s not cheap and it’s not pleasant but it’s something they all adore more than most other foods. The item I am referring to is the Durian fruit. Now for any of you that know anything about Thailand you will surely have come across this delicacy. I say delicacy but to most Farangs it’s more of a death sentence than a delicacy. This fruit can only be described as a cross between onion, garlic and smelly feet and has the consistency of soft butter. Its creamy in texture but definitely doesn’t taste of cream or butter. It has to be tasted to be believed and if you taste it once then one of two things will happen.
- You will double over in tears and your gag reflex will kick into overdrive.
- You will love it and want to eat it until you burst.
Many people find it so disgusting that they just can’t bear to be around it as even the smell is highly over powering and it is in fact banned on public transport in Thailand. Others find it so delicious that they will make the fruit market their first stop on every trip to Thailand.
The biggest problem for the ones that love it is its cost. Even in Thailand where it is grown it is the single most expensive fruit they have. Now add on import costs plus supply and demand and this tricky treat can cost you anything from $15 a kilo right up to $35 a kilo depending on the time of the year. So keep it in mind for a special occasion and make sure to open all the doors in the house before you open the wrapping.
Lastly but by no means least is gold. Forget silver or diamonds for a gift. The only precious item that is appreciated by a Thai women is pure 100% gold. Now this is not Farang gold this is Thai gold. Pure yellow in colour and pure 24 k. Western gold tends to be measured in Karats of 9, 14, 18 but none of them will be appreciated as they lack the yellow colour of pure gold. Practicality wise 24 karat gold is not great for wearing as it’s far too soft and breaks easily. This is why other metals are added to it which lower its quality but increase its strength. Never the less Thais love the pureness of the un altered mineral and if you can buy them some they will wear it with pride and show anyone who will look how happy they are and how lucky they are to have a husband that buys this for them.
DO THAI WOMEN LIKE TO LIE?
Now I know what you are all thinking when you hear about buying gifts for Thai women, many of you have heard the stories of the Asian gold-diggers and think we are all the same. This is most definitely not the case.
Yes Thai women love gifts but then again who doesn’t? The stories you hear are perpetuated by a certain type of man that goes to certain areas of the country and finds a certain class of Thai women. These women are there for one reason only and that’s business. So many men go to places like Pattaya or Phuket to specifically find paid company and then get all offended and upset when they get taken for granted or end up spending money on a women they think is the love of their life only to find her with another man a few hours after he has left Thailand. Guys you need to use some common sense here.
Don’t think that you are the only guy that these girls are seeing. Don’t be so naïve. If they are taking your money as payment for your company then you need to ask yourself how much of what they say and do is real and how much is just for show. Think of it like this, when you pay to go see a movie do you assume you can go see the movie again for free? Do you think that you can get a copy of the movie to take home with you?
NO…
It’s a loaner, a rental, something you have paid for to have the use of for a short period of time and while you have it you can have great pleasure from it but once it’s over its time to go home, alone.
Yes some of these women may fall for you and I personally know a few that are now happily married but the truth is that most of them will never escape that life so it’s best to just enjoy it while you can and then forget about it. Don’t be bitter and don’t tar all Thai women with the same brush. Not all of us work in the sex industry and not all of us are gold diggers.
Remember that the guys that tel you we are liars and thieves are most likely the ones that fell for an illusion and thought it was reality. Once they spend all their money and wake up to the reality that they aren’t the “sexy man” that was worshipped by 20 girls a day while on holiday they tend to get a little bitter and tell everyone that will listen the story of the “Thai girlfriend” that only went with him for his money and did the dirt on him as soon as his back was turned.
This attitude and naivety has led to Thai women getting a terrible reputation as liars but quite simply it’s the man that has perpetuated the lie and created a make believe world then blamed its demise on everyone but himself.
Yes Thai women tell lies but no more and no less than any other person from any other race in the world.
After all, doesn’t everyone lie sometimes? If you have answered no to that question I suspect you are lying.
So once you have cut through all the bull and realise that there are plenty of honest Thai women I guess you then need to ask yourself…
WHAT DO THAI WOMEN THINK OF RELATIONSHIPS WITH A FARANG?
Many many years ago it was considered unthinkable for a Thai woman to be with a Farang man. The very mention of this would send parents and grandparents into a spin and probably get you kicked out of the house and disowned, but in the words of Bob Dylan “The times they are a changing”
While some still frown on it, the simple facts are that like everywhere in the world it’s now becoming easier to communicate with strangers. It’s easy to travel around the world from the comfort of your arm chair and it’s also easy to see what you are missing out on. For the average Thai woman they will be destined to marry a Thai man and work on the farm for the rest of their life but for the smart ones, the ones growing up in a modern and technological world they want more.
No more do parents frown on cross culture relationships. They too dream of a better life for their children and are more than happy for them to meet a Farang that will treat them well and yes they also hope that he may pass on some of that western generosity to the extended family. Now I have already covered the whole extended family philosophy previously so if at this point you are thinking “oh no, are the parents after my money?” then you didn’t pay attention earlier and need to go back and read everything again.
So to continue,
While relationships are now accepted between Thais and Farangs it’s still a difficult combination due to cultural and other differences.
The main issue is family values. As I already talked about, Thais are very family orientated and this is something many Farangs can’t appreciate and don’t take seriously. This can lead to arguments and in worst cases it can split a couple up. It’s a sad truth that westerners have lost a lot of the family value mentality.
They leave home and visit rarely if at all and that’s just the way it is. Parents expect it and in many cases can’t wait for it to happen so they can have the home to themselves again. The worst thing a western parent can have is the loner son or daughter that stays home and expects the laundry to be done and dinner on the table courtesy of mum and a hand out of money at the end of every month courtesy of dad.
So I guess both parents and children are to blame for this just as much as culture but to be able to blend in with the Thai way of life it’s important that you take all of this into consideration and make some allowances.
The next thing Thais consider when thinking about a relationship with a Farang is the commitment they can expect. In Thailand it’s quite common for a Thai man to have another woman on the side and while it’s not accepted it is tolerated. They even have a word for the other woman “yes I know you would have a few choice words for her too but this is more of a title than a derogatory comment”
They call them Gik or small wife. Now with a Farang they always live in the hope that the man will be more loyal and treat them better and statistically they do. Of course western men have affairs but for other reasons to that of a Thai man. Usually if a Farang is being treated well and respected then they tend to stay loyal whereas a Thai man irrespective of how well they are treated will just take on another woman for the hell of it.
Finally and maybe most importantly Thai women dream of a relationship with a Farang man because they long for security and a stable life. By definition any man that can afford to travel to Thailand must have the means to take care of a wife and with that in mind wouldn’t any woman want to be with a person who can provide stability over poverty?
Now again this is not always the case and you may have heard talk of the two week millionaire? This is a term given to a man that goes on holiday after saving every cent for the other 50 weeks and shows off by spending a small fortune while he is away. To the unknowing eye this can come across as stability but once the guy goes home he is back to the 9-5 grind and possibly barely has enough money to pay for his own needs let alone a family and this is a trap many girls fall into. The problem is that once the Farang gets the attention and affection of a Thai woman he may begin to tell a few white lies in order to keep them interested and this can only end in disaster for both parties.
It’s a double edged sword, if the man tells the girl he is broke he risks losing her but if he lies he also runs that risk at a later time. My advice for what it is worth is to always come clean. This has two advantages. Firstly it separates the gold diggers from the genuine women because many genuine women will love you no matter what (although you have to understand that they still need to have someone that can at the very least feed and clothe them)
Secondly avoids a huge argument and heart break when they eventually realise you have been lying since the start and they can no longer trust a thing you say.
TIPS YOU SHOULD KNOW WHEN DATING A THAI WOMAN.
I already touched on a few things earlier on in this article but here are a few do’s and don’ts and pointers for your perusal.
- If you don’t want the silent treatment then don’t argue in public.
As I already said before Thai women don’t like public confrontation. They are shy around strangers and don’t like to air their dirty linen in public. At least if you argue in private she will open up and you can clear the air right there and then but believe me, if you fight in public and then have to wait for hours with all the anger boiling up inside her you will regret it. A Thai woman has two settings when she is annoyed. The first which many Farangs prefer is the all-out war setting where by both of you vent everything in a screaming match which then usually ends with a joint apology or a defeat followed by some hugging and maybe more if you are lucky.
The second and for many the far worse option is the dreaded silent treatment.
This can go on for days and in extreme cases weeks. A Thai woman is stubborn as a mule and will have no problem blanking you for as long as it takes to get her point across or until you come begging for mercy so keep this in mind the next time you want to vent your anger in public and maybe you will save yourself a whole world of grief.
- Never insult their family.
While Thai people are quite happy to gossip and moan about their own family from time to time do not take this as an invitation to vent any negative views you may have on the family especially if it’s around other members of the family. It’s very much a case of do as I say and not as I do where family matters are concerned and complaints or insults are best left unsaid. Don’t be fooled into a false sense of security when asked by your wife if you like her family especially in the early days of a relationship. Once you are settled and get to know each other better it may be ok to bring up certain issues but each person is different so you will have to gauge tolerance levels for yourself.
- Try not to fight with your own family around your wife.
This is a tricky one because you can’t be walking around on eggshells all the time but if it can be avoided then do try to leave the fighting for a time where she is not around. Fighting with your family will make her feel awkward and embarrassed
- Don’t try to be too affectionate around her friends and especially around her family.
A quick kiss is ok if you’re around close friends but a big sloppy wet kiss with hands everywhere is a definite no no. Again this will make both her and her friends uncomfortable and could end up in a trip to silent treatment central. Holding hands is more acceptable now in public but again some can find it at best embarrassing and at worst offensive especially parents.
- Respect religion and especially areas of prayer and worship.
Never ever be playful or affectionate in or around a temple. This is seriously frowned on as Thais take their religion very seriously. Try to cover up bare legs in a temple and never wear sleeveless tops. You will notice that women always cover bare legs and bare shoulders and arms in a place of prayer and are always respectful to any monks that are around whether that is in the Temple or out in public. Always Wai them and never sit with your feet pointing to them. Keep feet tucked under or behind you. These rules go for every occasion be it with your wife, girlfriend or just a tourist out for a day sightseeing.
- At food times be prepared for one of two options.
The first is the quick meal, this is where she will scoff everything down like a vacuum cleaner and expect you to do the same. If you take your time you can expect her to stand starring at you or sit tapping her feet etc.
The second is the all nighter, this is where a basic meal turns into a feast of a thousand dishes and as many hours to finish it. Thais are known for this type of meal and it usually occurs when with friends or family. More often than not each person will bring a contribution to the feast and if you have 10 or more people over you can imagine how much food that will amount to. That’s not even taking into consideration all the food your wife will have already prepared so as you can see, this can lead to an epic meal intermingled with chat and laughter which can get very loud.
This leads me on to number 7.
- Don’t date Thai women if you like peace and quiet at meal times.
If you have ever eaten lunch on a building site and had to shout your way over a jack hammer or a rumbling cement mixer then you will know how those conversations go. Now take away the noise pollution but keep the voice level where they were and that’s a typical setting for a Thai meal. They love to all talk at the same time and laugh at the top of their voices. They will gradually get louder if alcohol is involved until to the point where you can barely make out one voice from the other.
- Embrace change and be adventurous when it comes to food.
Thailand and by extension Thai people are not a meat and potatoes kind of race. Your Thai partner will make you some delicious food but it may possibly not be delicious to you. Don’t turn up your nose at what’s served. Even if it sounds disgusting at least give it a try and you may find that you are pleasantly surprised. From chicken foot soup (Tom super teen gai) or deep fried pigs intestines (Sai Tod) to Pappaya salad with fermented fish sauce (Som tum Para)
All of these may not be to everyone’s taste but you will miss out on a lot of great food if you simply turn up your nose at them all without giving them a try and your wife will be well impressed that you are willing to try things from her culture. At the very least you will provide her with a big laugh as you realise that the fried scorpion is not for you.
- Be patient while communicating with her.
Remember that English is not her first language so sometimes it’s very difficult for her to get her point across. It can be very stressful for Thai women when they know what they want to say but just can’t convey it to you. Google translate can help sometimes but if you have ever used it you will find that for many words or phrases it’s pretty useless. Try to prompt her if you know what the word may be but don’t badger her when she doesn’t know if it’s right or not. Learn to pick up on her sign language and enjoy it by having a laugh with her when she makes little mistakes but don’t make it look like you are laughing at her.
Some things you will find hilarious for example, a friend of a friend was telling me about a girl that was trying to tell her something and kept saying “suck ass” she couldn’t keep a straight face and asked he r if she could explain what she meant? she made her feel comfortable and told her what she was actually saying was a swear word so she tried again with the aid of Google translate. Luckily this time Google got the words correct and the girl was able to determine that she actually meant to say “such as”
They both had a good laugh and it made things a lot easier for future conversations.
- Be mindful of sending wrong signals, especially about marriage.
Be careful not to end up in a situation where she thinks you are getting married when realistically all you wanted to do is say hi to the parents.
In Thai culture a marriage proposal is in many circumstances expected once you have met the parents. Thai women are only really encouraged to introduce you to them if a marriage proposal is on the cards so unless you intend to pop the big questions don’t be too eager to meet the parents.
WHY THAI WOMEN PREFER FOREIGN MEN
As a farang man you are already at an advantage over Thai men and here are just a few reasons why.
They know themselves well.
They know who they are, understand what they can be, and know exactly what they want in life. Being with someone who knows what he wants to do with his life is really a sight to see. He will be ambitious and craving for results more than anybody else. He will be daring to take on any kind of situation because he knows experiences only make you grow strong. He will be adventurous, much like wanderlust, and he’s got stories to tell like nobody else could do. He will be a total charmer and this is the kind of guy that a woman wants.
They have goals.
They are ambitious. Yes, sometimes it’s nice to just chill out and have lazy bed day but if a serious relationship is what a girl is looking for, they can’t live a life like that. They need to be productive. And will need someone serious, to strive and to work hard towards a future you have yet to see. A man who has clear goals is always sexy because he knows himself very well and he will inspire you to be a better version of yourself. If you want more than just a fling and nonsense infatuation, this man can be a perfect choice for you.
They are mature.
For the most part Thai men are quite childish and rarely stress about things that are important in a relationship. Now of course a stress free life is wonderful but when it gets to a point where nothing matters then it becomes a problem. Farang men are more mature. They learn from a very early age that they will have to fend for themselves at some point and most of them will strive to be responsible and build a legacy for themselves and their future family. They care more than just where the next beer is coming from and can usually save money for their future which is the opposite of Thai men who prefer to have the bank own everything and not really care if they lose it because they can always run back to mum and dad for a roof over their head.
They have a more gentle nature.
Hitting your woman is a big, big no-no in the eyes of Western guys. Hitting a woman in the Western world is something that’s looked down upon by every person that lives there. Men who hit women there are usually viewed as psychos and complete jerks who are unfit to deal with normal people. And while we girls know in our hearts that we’d never do anything to harm the man we love in our life, do our better halves feel the same about us?
Fortunately, I know for a fact that Western men do feel the same thing. They are for the most part more respectful and treat women with dignity and only in rare circumstances would they hit a woman. In comparison with Thai men who are quick to anger and even quicker to slap or even throw a punch, this is something that a Thai woman dreams of and why wouldn’t she want a relationship with a man that will not only keep her safe from others but also keep her safe from himself?
So to sum up everything in a few words albeit it a very simplified summation,
If you are looking to have a relationship with a Thai woman you need to be patient. Don’t rush things and make sure you treat them with respect. Try to be open to new things and new adventures. Don’t be disrespectful to family or friends and always be a little less romantic in public especially in the early days of the relationship. Be forceful but not a bully. Thai women like a strong man who knows what he wants but not an over powering oaf that berates them at every opportunity.
Respect their religion and even if you don’t agree or believe in Buddha at least try to understand that he is a huge part of the Thai way of life so don’t try to make them choose between Buddha and you because you will lose every time.
Give them time with their family and if they are away from home make sure they have a way to contact them as much as possible to help with the adjustment of leaving them behind.
Have fun, enjoy being in a relationship with someone from a completely different part of the world and finally,
Love them unconditionally and they in turn love you twice as much in return. You always get back way more than what you have invested. All you need to do is look into our hearts and it will all make sense!
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Excellent report. I am 69. Sometimes I communicate with Thai women on internet chat.
Afterwards I feel like I am 21!
I do love all women but mostly Asian girls best. In USA women, many of them, have become too competitive with men. Argumentative and disrespectful. Any man will go to the excess from a deficiency!
I also love the cute figures and beautiful smiles on pretty faces.
I want to thank you so much for a well written, well thought out and most important an honest assessment of Thai women. I am dating a Thai woman who is absolutely wonderful and all that you describe in your article. I feel truly blessed to be her partner. All the best and many many thanks for your article.
omg i actually know that girl in your pic…she’s from chiang mai.
The world is a small place indeed.
Great article! I read it to my Thai wife of 10 years, and she had a blast! She likes to talk about it! We had a great two years in Thailand, and moved to California after she got her visa. We have a very handsome little boy and life is good! My wife goes to the Wat every Monday to feed the monks & has lots of Thai friends here in Sacramento. She loves her Thai TV, & FB with her family, just like you said. Anyway, you said you don’t hear enough good stories, so I want to send you one.
What do you say about those individual who met a Thai lady online dating app, and have started exchanging messages, video call, sending gift to each other country, and etc. Should you suggest to stop it? Leave. Have no money wiring or anything yet but talked about dowry, traditional wedding, engagement ceremony. Both Thai lady and individual are looking for long term relationship.
I have met a lovely Thai lady through Thai dating app, so far we are doing great, once a while, we both are not getting messages through properly because English is not our first language and I don’t speak or understand Thai yet. From what I read your information definitely useful. Thank you. I wish I could avoid misunderstandings. Thank you.
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I am from Scotland, Now retired and living in Hua Hin. Had a Thai GF from the South that lived and worked in BKK. Relationship was 4 years. Met her mum, who loved me as i could do all the DIY work around the house plus spent 1 month painting the house. We bought a ring in BKK on year 2 then i visited mum, but simply used the word with this ring i would like to take care of your daughter, Accepted. Personally we never talked or discussed marriage, although i have tried to get a number, which is up to mum. IN the last year she has left the house a few times after small disputes over small stuff, but gone for a month, 3 months max, no words she is leaving just the silent treatment, then gone in a taxi next day, but last time was I dont feel like this is my home, as during the last time she was absent i changed upgraded dining table, got rid of old TV cabinet, and cut out a few plants in the garden. When she returned she did not make one complimant about the changes, life was normal, then out of the blue silent treatment, next day bags were all packed, but while taxi was waiting i asked so you done see a future? To be told what did you promise Mum? I said i would take care of you. Have i not done that, No Answer. After i thought hum is this the marriage proposal i should have followed up with ? Anyway she is gone saying we need some time apart. But think i am done with the Silent treatment. prefer to live alone with my bicycle and motorcycles. Your sincerely confused.
Please don’t mislead a cohort of men into falling for these women. Most Thai women are very deceitful by global standards. In fact Thai culture itself is all about being okay to lie while keeping face. If you don’t really understand this principle you’re going to be taken advantage of my dear friends. Hope someone reads this twice. I’ve lived here for several years and I understand the language and culture more than the average tourist.
I do hope you find a good one but please don’t wear rose colored glasses.
i met a Thai lady online at a dating site and we communicated for months.
At first, she was not sure and tried to push me away. Then i discovered a previous boyfriend had given her aids. She was taking medication and her count was low by now. when i said this did not change the way i felt about her she became more
settled and we finally met in Thailand. She still went to work as a receptionist in a hotel but came back to an apartment i had rented each night. we were/are both in love. I could accept the cultural differences, we met her family back in the provinces and i got on well with her brothers and their children, as well as her father and cousins.
I was honoured as i was the first man she had introduced to her family.
It took me a bit of time to learn the nuances, we could hold hands in public but kissing in Public was not something
to be done, though a peck on the cheek was allowed occasionally.
at night time she was very coy. She always maintained she was ugly and her skin too dark((though to me she was beautiful and i loved her honey chocolate skin)
I could understand and could wait for her to become comfortable.
I told her that i did not want her doing things in front of me that she would not do alone. So if she had always worn pajamas then it did not matter to me that she never wore sexy lingerie. what mattered is she felt comfortable. To be frank, i thought she looked sexy in anything she wore. But there was a barrier between us when it came to intimacy although we were intimate. I felt and thought it was to do with something from her earlier relationships but she refused to discuss it the past is the past she said and this is my future. I was also finding it hard to see how to please her, to get her to trust and believe i loved her.
I had read the 5 languages of love and knew that we all have different ways of expressing love. so i asked her to fill in a questionnaire, at first she refused but when she did she filled it how she felt entering what i wanted the answers to be. She guessed what i would put and tried to replicate, that was not what i wanted. I do not want her to do things that please me.i want her to do things that please her. i cannot see how to change that or to open up. she wants us to be married and live in Thailand, something i am willing to do.
But if she will not open her heart and trust me, how can i make such a huge commitment.
Great article, but the fact that you were able to write that much boasting about yourselves defending their spoiled behavior tells me that a thai girl’s number one trait is arrogance/cockiness. Holding onto feelings of bitterness and anger for 6 months is 100% inappropriate for any relationship. You’re not helping anyone by putting on a fake smile.
This is a very helpful article, i met a Thai lady in November and i believe we both really love each other, but when i’m at home i listen to a lot of negative comments and question our relationship. I have been back 4 times since november twice just for weekends and we speak every day. This has convinved me that i need to follow my heart and see what happens. I actually feel guilty about the negative thoughts and realize that a lot of it is where we are mis-interpruting what we are saying to each other. Thank you again.
Once my thai language improves it will get easier.
Thank you so much for giving such good insight!
I am traveling to Thailand for the first time next month and have used a couple of social websites to search for perspective dates.
After reading your article I now realize many of the mistakes I have been making and, with great appreciation, have been upfront about my finances which has easily weeded out those that were more interested in my wallet.
I look forward to visiting this beautiful land and now feel a bit more confident.
I been married to a thai. Girl. From amnat chiron. For 4 years she is 30 i am 53. We have 2 kids. 4 and 2. Well Ive read your article. And. Id like to say. My wife is untidy. Everywere. I do my own laundry. She hardly talks to me. Never wants sex. I get no kisses or cuddles. Maybe once every. 6 weeks i might get sex but. No. Oral. Im on my 3 rd marrage. And. I thought i was set. I mean all is ok. Else were. We dont fight. But. Yer. Not happy jan. I wouldnt so it again. Plus. All the money. They want send home. Dont do it. My advice. Re andrew. I feel like i got another daughter
Funny that all the guys here think bad about their own woman in their country. That thai woman are better etc. You don’t need to go to Thailand to get yourself a wife or girl. You need to work on yourself and be a man.
What such a wonderful article i have start an online relationship with a thai girl who i plan to give her a holiday for 3 weeks in 3 months. You have given me a great insite to how to treat her right and most of all her traits. She is a very loving family orientated lady that is a single mother of 3 children she works very hard for her family. I could not habe met a more wonderful person. She inspired me to be a better man and look towards a wonderful future. Thank you
I stumbled on to this article while looking for the meaning of something my girlfriend said to me haha. Thank you for writing this. It was a good read and very spot on about Thai women from what I have seen, but that should be expected since it is written by a Thai lady 🙂
What you said about Western men is true, to a point. I can only speak for myself, but I didn’t mature or figure out what I want in life until I hit my early 30’s. Now that I am cruising through 35 I will say it has become much easier to date in general and maybe that has something to do with it.
It is a little sad to say – I have never been able to have a meaningful relationship with a Western woman. The silver lining is that I am happy to say that Thai ladies have by far become my first choice! It took me some years to reconcile the cultural divide, however, the more I understand the language and the culture the deeper and more fulfilling my dating experiences have become. I am looking forward to seeing where this takes me.
-David
I have been married to a Thai for over 10 years, I had three failed marriages prior. I have never been so happy in my life, my Thai wife is the finest human being I have ever met. Your article is perfect! You nailed it! I encourage friends of mine to get out of the cocoon of America! I will keep this article and forward to my American friends in search of true love and respect of each of their partner. You should write a book! Thank you,
Kyle
I met a wonderful thai lady and have been in a long distance relationship for about 4 months now,about a 5 hour drive,and we see each other a couple days every 2 or 3 weeks,text daily and video call daily,and she has told me many of these things already,and in three days she is moving to vermont with me ,I’m trying to learn anything I can to help us in our relationship, this information was great ,thank you
Thanks for a great article.
I really learned a lot.
Great article, some parts fit, but many more don’t, perhaps because she is chinese thai from the north, but has lives in Bangkok for her adult life. Wife & I could really use a therapist with cross cultural competence for Thai & US. Both individual development and couples therapy. One of my degrees is in social psychology. Any thai american therapists in la? or online counseling if they can bill insurance. Biggest struggles are with lack of communication of needs from her, we are both type A & have very different directions we want to approach important issues, and lack of drive to understand or embrace US social culture.
Thanks for the nice article. I am American but from a small progressive town in Oregon. I met a wonderful Isaan woman on ***, more or less by accident, but fortunately I had the money, time and good sense to head over there ASAP to meet in person. That was over a year ago. I’ll never forget that day in the Bangkok airport. We are both divorced with kids of our own (total of 5; but mostly grown and living on their own). Neither of us will win any beauty contests, but we are fit and healthy. After a very brief hug (in the airport), she busied herself organizing our luggage and looked up at me for direction; where were we going; how were we going to get there etc. I guess I was a bit in shock at first. She is quite small and was wearing simple country girl clothing; kinda like we would call “hippy clothes” back in Oregon. But in the back of the taxi, she gripped my arm like nobody has ever done in my life. She didn’t look up at me; just wrapped both of her arms around my left arm like her life depended on it. That’s when it hit me. I was in love.
I made 5 trips to Thailand in the last year, and got married a couple months ago at my home in Eugene, OR.
Is she perfect? No. Is she a doormat? No. Actually, she is the toughest fiercest person I have ever met and has a hella temper on her. She’s like a 5 foot battle tank. Always moving, always working, always overcoming obstacles, and she does NOT like being trifled with or blamed for things. The good news? Get ready for it. Wow, does she love me! No rhyme or reason for it. She just loves me like nobody ever loved me. Cooking, cleaning, cutting my fingernails, massaging my back, grooming herself, always looking pretty and smiling; enthusiastic in bed.
ADVICE FOR FARANGS:
People are people; some are better than others. Most of what makes Thai women so fantastic is THAI CULTURE and THAI RELIGION, so I highly recommend bathing in that same holy fount that has made these people (not just the women) so friendly, loving and forgiving. 1. GO THERE! 2. learn the language 3. visit the temples and study the religion and 4. whatever you do, don’t be disrespectful of the culture, religion (monks and temples), traditions, or people. Be a good guest. If you heed this advice, it will change you and you will be worthy and capable of a great interracial marriage.
Likewise, be very very mindful of the danger of rushing into bringing your Thai wife or fiancee back to the US (or probably anywhere outside of Thailand). There are many articles on the internet detailing the dangers of this, but they generally focus on the Thai women getting screwed up by Western culture, and ignore the importance of culture (family, friendship, language, religion, food, behavioral standards etc) on us men.
Meeting someone online is great, but then get over there ASAP! And return to the West with no small amount of caution. Yeah, be the good guy, the hero of your story, but if you just let Thailand change you, I think you have a very good chance of success.
I though angels only lived in heaven, but I found one in the form of a very gentle and lovely Thai lady whilst she was working in ireland. If I had sent both my parents and my family out in search of the perfect partner for me, they wouldn’t have succeeded as I did by just being in the right place at the right time when I met her. That’s the day I won my lottery the day I met her. The most beautiful Angel God ever made.
Thai women are NOT shy. They will sleep with just about any human being in order to obtain a few extra dollars. They have cons until the cows come home. Flick this blog and look at the Thailand horror stories of Thai women taking advantage of foreign men or women. (never go in to business with Thai people, nor trust them with anything to do with your livelihood)
also they are NOT euphemistic!!!! I have never in my life met a Thai woman that has had table manners. (They can even eat with their mouth closed)
As far at the “Kha” at the end of a sentence, that is about as far as their polite manner go’s. Picture 2 Baboons screaming at each other, when they are simply asking if the other is hungry.
TO: Admin
This article has convinced me that a Thai lady will be exactly what I need , I will have to learn more but at least I will not cause her shame or embarrassment when I meet her parents and family as well as friends
I would have held hands and placed my arm around her, big error.
I plan on going to Thailand for a month or so and see what I get going between now and than
thank you this has been eye opening but also adds to the quality of the women.
thank you so much
Boy, I just read this and generally I wouldn’t have commented but in this case….
In my case, I married a Thai lady after we had lived together for two years, I had known her longer, but was still looking and traveling around the place, and we had had a rather big argument, about money of course, so I pulled stumps and left. 4 months later we started talking again, and well away we went. In that time, I learnt some harsh lessons about having a Thai woman in your life.
Many have said it again and again, but it’s all about the money, she sold insurance in BKK before this but lost her job due to some finance issues, loan sharks coming to her work demanding money she owed.. I bailed her out to the tune of 360,000 baht.
She came and lived with me for two years, I gave her money which was fine, then she decided she wanted to open a shop selling cosmetics and asked me for a loan, basically added up to around 800,000 baht. We drew up a paper detailing her paying me back in such and such a time, the shop died in the butt, without me ever receiving one baht in repayment. Then came some other scheme, and another, I refused to give her anymore, and things went south. She did get some work back in insurance, enough to keep her going, send money home and such. Then last December out of the blue, she announced she had bought a car, a new MG, on her uncle’s name. Now she doesn’t drive, her son and her brother does, as do I, but I wanted nothing to do with it, it was the most pointless 9000 a month of anything I could imagine, especially when she touched me up to pay for it. Totally irrational and pointless amounts of money are spent on pointless things, and as usual, the farang pays.
Now for about the past year, the romance has gone, she sleeps alone in the living room and wants nothing to do with me, last time we had sex was when she got money out of me for something, and even then it was nothing like what we used to have. And forget about even looking at another woman, let alone the thought of a mia noi…
It’s a complex relationship, she still owes me a lot of money, she keeps promising to pay, but money goes out of her hand faster than it comes in still, I know I will have to forget about the sum she owes me, I’ll never see it. This is the reality of many Thai Western romances, it’s all a scam, and I’m not just being a unhappy farang here, I know many other couples in this city and the men have basically expressed a similar view except for two guys, it all starts out wonderfully and slowly they get sucked dry.
My wife and I have been married for three years now, together five… I try not to think that she is looking after her and her family’s best interests before mine, but I know Thai blood is far more thicker than water, and my future here in this country is very iffy, I am literally within months of deciding whether to just cut my loses and go elsewhere. She will justify never giving me anything owed by her own set of rationale, she can tell her family and friends any manner of stories and they will believe her.
If anyone truly believes a Thai woman loves them, you’re fooling yourself
Cool post
Thailand is ever-changing and with that, so is the habits and characteristics of Thai women.
I’ve been living in Thailand for 6 years now and in a long term relationship with a Thai girl for nearly 3 years.
Not all Thai girls are the same – the majority of the ones I met all had agendas that focused on money and supporting themselves as well as their families. Thankfully, after meeting more than 300 thai girls, I found the right one. Sweet and without an agenda other than being happy together.
Wow, many thanks for this very informative article. Presently, I am in discussion with a couple of Thai women and I am very impressed with their honesty.
A friend of mine convinced me to join a Thai dating site and I am more than happy. I will be going to Thailand in a few weeks and I can’t wait. I will be meeting this one girl that is simply astounding, beautiful, respectful and down to earth. We will be together for a week or so and see if we match. One thing I have to admit, I never thought that Thai women were so beautiful inside out. I really hope to have a relationship with this woman, time will tell but I have such a wonderful feeling that I am going to the country at peace.
Thank you for this article, I now have a better idea on how to present myself to her, family and friends.
Cheers!
Hi, I found a university grad young Thai lady. I’ve treated her and her family with great respect. Lovely marriage with gold and 300,000 sinsot. I own two large luxury condos here plus have taken my wife on three exotic cruises , plus other trips to really nice resorts throughout Thailand. She doesn’t work. All pleasure. Should be perfect. But she’s now screaming at me for land and prestigious house and a car in her name. Yes… screaming. And no intimacy. She’s on a Thai wives of foreign men website and all they do is brag about what they just received from their husband. So the fantastic life seems small in comparison to others. ( plus they all know bargirls who are raking in quick rewards from foolish foreigners).
I’m now depressed and have now officially given up on making her happy. Divorce is coming soon and I’m dreading that too. Oh. I don’t drink, don’t smoke, no bars, just gym and fitness to look as good as possible. My friend is in the same position but he’s giving in and has bought his tgf a car and land etc. ( she’s slightly happier but often threatens to leave if the material hypergamy slows. I haven’t told two other friends that they’re tgf are cheating on them and will leave the instant they find a richer guy. I could continue but the message is pretty clear. Thailand is not the same as before.
Great piece, lam an American. I married my Thai wife while stationed in Bangkok Thailand in 1970. She was with me my whole 20 year Air Force Career and we lived another 10 years in the States after my retirement. We relocated to Ratchaburi in the year 2000. In 2013 my wife passed away age 65 due to cancer. At least she got to live in her home country (with me) to enjoy her family, friends, thai food and watch her favorite Thai TV shows for the last 13 years of her life. We were married 43 wonderful years plus the 6 years since she passed away (we are still married) a total of 49 years. She was and still is my soul mate. In your article you pretty much got everything right l really enjoyed it very much. Thank you.
I am so angry with myself. I wish I had read your post a week ago.
I met a Thai lady in Australia she is the sister of my friends wife,
She is beautiful and ten years younger that me. However I am a youngish fit 60 year old guy. But I amediatly thought that there would be no way she would be interested in me.
So I continued to drink beer all afternoon but found myself being attracted to her even more.
Anyway way I got quite drunk and we ended up sleeping together. I told her that I just wanted a cuddle.
However having her soft body next to me and the fact I had not been with a woman for a year I could not control myself. However I must say she did not resist not one bit. I did not force the issue. In the end I actually truly believed that she was actually attracted to me.
I have tried to contact her but can’t as I only have her sisters number. And she tells me that she dosnt want to seem me. I can’t help but think she dosnt even know I have tried to contact her.
I just wished I had read your post before I met her.
I will be going to Thailand ASAP to hopefully find a Thai lady that I can love and give her a good life.
I had met a Thai girl at Bangkok for almost a year. She is originated from ubom rachathani. We have good feelings for each other and we went overseas together for few times. But sometimes she is treating me cold and hot. We just recently got together and we are having a long distance relationship. Would really need some advice.
This was a well written article. I have met a Thai woman and I am in love with her, or at least I think I am. I will get to meet her in January of 2020 for the first time. I asked her to read this article and she said it was about 60% true. I cant wait to meet her!
We really hope it works out well between you two!
We’d be thrilled if your friend could share her thoughts in the comments for the benefit of all readers!
All the best 🙂
She only wants your money. Once it is gone, so are you. I recommend Europe or South America. Thai women don’t have hearts, they are just really good at acting like they do.
PROTECT YOURSELF
I have saved this to PDF & will absolutely re-read it frequently to keep me grounded !!!!!!
I am sincerely looking to find a permanent genuine loving relationship with a loyal Thai lady from the North. This well worded genuine insight has provided invaluable information that I would have had absolutely NO idea about, if I had not stumbled on your post.
I am staggered at the amazing learning curve that I will endure ( as too she would have her work cut from her side as well ) I honestly hope that I can be what she expects of me. It will not be easy but because I’m older & wiser now & more than anything else I really want success for both of us. I really hope that I will some day find the Northern Thai lady I’m seeking out . If so I think for me it would be best for me to live in Thailand with her than to take her away from her home & environment . I’m an Englishman living in Australia & hate it here as it is a now very different country than the one I came to 25 years ago. Western woman are completely the reverse of a Thai lady & I’d hate to have the lady I love change or get tainted , or part turn into a woman with a Western mindset chasing shallow values & gaining misplaced aspirations.
Your very thorough invaluable evaluation & enlightenment has made a big impact on me & made realise things that I had never even considered properly . Sometime as they say “You can’t see the Woods for the Tree’s” & thats so true in this case ! I have absorbed all you wrote & will draw on and seek to recall and act on that knowledge for a very long time to come .
THANK YOU so much.
Thanks for stopping by, Lee! Glad you liked the post!
Reasons you state are exactly the reasons why so many men from the West are contemplating a relationship with Thai women and finding success with Thai women as their partners. Not a lot of people share their happy ever after stories online, but trust me, there are a plenty of those!
Good luck with your search 🙂
Thank you so must for this very well written post. I’m beginning a relationship with a NE Thailand woman, and it’s been insightful understanding some her values and principals. I really like how Thais are very family and home oriented. It makes for the possibility of a genuinely warm and reciprocally loving relationship or respect, trust and working together.
Glad you’ve found someone who makes you happy 🙂
There are a ton of men happily married women from Thailand that you never get to hear about. Family bonds are very strong in Thailand (and many parts of Asia as well) and it might be a difficult to accept at first, but in the end its usually all worth it.
I’ve met many Thai ladies and the one thing I definitely not agree with is that they all love the Durian bit. In my case one in about eight Thai women like it, about the same stats as foreign men.
For the rest it’s an interesting read. The same as Western women, they all have their price tag.
Interesting and necessary information to American/Western men who are (more) curious about women in Thailand
I just entered into a relationship with a beautiful Thai woman. This article probably saved my life. To lose her would be the end of my desire for a relationship. You have taught me much.
P.S now I know what a Farang is.
All is so very true, but the inter beauty can not be properly described to a western man we must experience it for ourselves.
I have enjoyed a loving relationship with a Thai girl from a small country village for almost a year. Being the only farang in the village one “becomes the talk of the town” and similarly my darling has become the envy of her friends, definitely not that I am someone special.
After being used to the competitive and aggressive Western way, I am now so gifted to experience the love I receive two fold from her, and the support and love I get from her family, her friends and the entire village. I am honoured to treasure the love I receive from her own two daughters and her own brothers and sisters I also had the honour of meeting her late mother before she passed on. I have been made to feel special by everyone she knows and the love from a Thai girl and the entire village is unique.
I have one word of advice for farang who want to enjoy a meaningful life long relationship with a Thai girl. Please don’t expect to take her away from her family and her country to be your wife. If you love her be with her always.
Thais love their country. They love their families. Buddhism is their life. Respect her.
Her love is unconditional. She is loyal and is second to none in the whole world.
There is nothing so great in life we farang can experience as the love from a Thai woman and her family and friends.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experience with us. Hope you have a great life ahead with your Thai life.
Hello,
What is the name of that town?
Thanks
Ozzie
Great article..I am an Caucasian American. I met a Thai lady and she is the best.. Here in America it’s a war on white Caucasian men. I will never marry an American woman ever.. Thai women are the best and I love her to death.. bless your country of Thailand..
Glad you found someone that makes you happy 🙂
That was really well presented. Having been dating a beautiful women from north east Thailand for several months I can honestly say this has completely painted my scenario And I’m really glad I read this entire article…..it has proven to me my new mrs is in fact a wonderful hearted woman.
Thank you
Thanks for stopping by, Ben. Glad our article resonates well with your personal experience with Thai women 🙂
I visited Bangkok,Phuket and kohsamui I love your country and today I learned lot of Thai lifestyles. I respect you very much for the values you told the whole world keep smiling Thai women.
Hope you had a good visit 🙂
My thai wife is a 49 yr old goddess
I love my thai wife, but she says she does not think i love her, why? We have a distant relationship, which is hard, send money every month. I dont know whats wrong.
Long distance relationship are always more difficult than regular ones. The most difficult aspect of being in a long distance relationship is constantly having to judge the state of the relationship.
Have an open discussion with her and make her understand you’re not just looking for a holiday girlfriend and I’m sure things will work out well. All the best 🙂
Thanks for your thoughtful imformation now would you go on a date with me
How much money do you have?
Sorry, couldn’t resist :p
Happily married for over 8 years now 🙂
I am dating a Thai girl from the North East region of Thailand. We met in Phuket, but I didn’t lead with my wallet and was honest with her from the start on what I am looking for and wanted. Plus I keep my promises and I’m going to meet her family soon. She doesn’t want to move out of Thailand, which I’m fine with, because my job I can move there. I am from the US, but currently live in China. After I meet her parents, I will see how things go. I know its a big deal for my Thai GF to meet her parents, so I respect that and open to marrying her and staying in Thailand. Nice article, and I am trying to learn all I can so I know what I’m getting myself into. Plus I’m trying to learn the Thai language so I can communicate with her parents and family.
Thanks for sharing, and hope it works out well for the two of you 🙂
This is one of the most informative articles I have read. I will be going back to see my Fiancee in another few weeks after Songkron to see and be with her while we wait patiently for her above to join me in California for a whole new life filled with new experiences and opportunities she has never even thought of before. She is the only daughter with elderly parents who she works so hard for with little in return. I know exactly what I am getting into and it gives me pure joy to make our life much better all around. We love each other dearly and thank you so much for your positive thought here!! GUY
Wish you all the best in life 🙂
What an interesting post. I’m an American woman of Thai descent. My parents were born and raised in Bangkok. My mom is very proper and diplomatic in public. She never causes a scene, even when she’s annoyed at my dad BUT just wait until they get home and BOOM she’ll verbally tear him apart if he made her angry or did something wrong. It’s almost hilarious. I was born and raised here in the U.S. so I’m a lot like my mother, but I’m a lot louder than she is. I gleefully don’t avoid confrontations, especially with men.
On a different note, it saddens me to see so many Western men come to Thailand, men who are physically and mentally ugly, who fail miserably at obtaining the love and interest of a Western woman. They come and seek Isaan or other rurally raised women, thinking he can have the “upper hand” or a basically a submissive, domestic slave. Thai women deserve better than these failed, disgusting slobs. I hope all these women who are considering an expat farang are strong and handle these men the way they need to be handled. Thank you for posting this interesting read!
Thanks a ton for sharing your thoughts 🙂
The whole idea of the post to help people see the bigger picture when it comes to relationships that’s healthy, respectful and on equal terms with Thai women by explaining about our culture, lifestyle, traditions and our country as a whole.
The lesson here is be not surprised if some US women are angry US men leave them for foreign women! lol! We are supposed to be their cash cows! lol.
Thai women are like other women in this world.
With both good and bad people Beautiful and ugly
If you want to find good women You have to find a good place as well.
If you like having sex with Thai women, you have to go to Pattaya or Club Bar.
There are very few women with prostitution in Thailand.
Of course, most men will like bar girls.
I know, right?
A lot of men just visit the seedier side of Thailand and assume its the same with the entire country! However, as you can see from the comments there are plenty of people who have found partners in Thailand and forged a happy and healthy relationship with Thai women from all walks of life. Its sad (and just human nature) that people don’t share their positive experiences as much as they share (and vent) their negative experiences in life.
I’m glad though that there’s a positive change in opinion that’s slowly but surely happening.
I read all of this and mostly so true.
Glad you agree with it 🙂
Great words, i love thailand, the people and my thai better half, will be there for good next year and can wait!! She is the love of my life and not and never been a bargirl!!! Thankyou for your advise lovely read!!!
Glad you enjoyed reading it 🙂
Great and very educative post, i cannot more then agree to this very thoroughly analyses of an ever smiling ,unique human Thai Female
Ms
Thanks for stopping by, Michel! Glad you enjoyed the article!
I was there a few days ago for the first time in my life. A life changing experience, altough happily married to a western woman, I must say Thai women are way more carrying and lovely than I ever expected women can be. Too late for me – but definitley worth a try in my next life.
Its a different cultural experience for sure 🙂
Hope you had a good stay…
Thank you for your article.
Glad you enjoyed reading it 🙂
Awesome to get a Thai ladies perspective. Too much is one sided farang bias. Gives me hope for an honest relationship. I feel more comfortable with the collective approach to society than the western individualistic approach. Not that one is better than the other , just different. Thank you for your openness.
Glad you liked it. Trust me, there are a lot of foreigners happily married with Thai women, that you never hear about. Its unfortunate you only get to hear the negative experience, but that’s just the way it is… Oh well….
One of the best article … maybe the best one… I’ve read about Thai women.
Lot of truth but I feel like you talk about everything we have to do to make Thai women happy. You seem to forget a little about our happiness.
I can understand what you said about the importance of your (Thai women) family, parents, relatives… what about ours?
A guy like me … like many others I guess, worked hard to have a comfortable situation. Now I’m looking for a Thai women for many reasons… it’s not a problem for everything she like, to take care of her (even if that is also to be define) but, I also have a family I have to think about, to help sometimes. I can take care of her but not all of her family plus my family… a lot of people … that is not possible. My comfortable situation doesn’t make me a rich guy…you have to consider that!
I consider myself as a farang even if I’m a mixed, with a great value of family. I can easily understand that. I have no kids then for now, I help my nephews in their studies… and I have my own projects …
I like to discuss with you about that … if you don’t mind… you have my email.. thanks 🙂
I lived in Thailand for long time.what about the Go Go bar girls..you mean they are shy??? seriously?
why did u not also include how they make the economy grow here..Yes The SEX industry…and these girls
are all good girls and shy? Lol…if you wanna talk about Thailand, is cool, but speak also the down side
of the women here too…and many of the lie ..they are students, Lawyers, Doctors, and more normal jobs
to not shock the foreigner of make him Run away.
they also will tell you that you are the only boyfriend in their life, if u don’t live in Thailand and visit a few times a years..as a foreigner…but they tell you , that you are the only one..behind your back.they have 10 more boyfriends.
and boyfriends that send them money monthly…..they are mainly after money not after your love.
This is what many naive men have not realized or seen…I see this soooo many times.
In reality most Thailand women want money, only a few want love, real love.Not many only a few.
also if men cheat on a women, there have been many cases of men getting his “penis” Chopped up.
This stories you don’t tell right?
Another thing, many Thai women marry a man who boys a home in Thailand.And after a few months or so,
she kicks the man out of her home..and keeps everything.End the relationship.because if you buy homes or property
in Thailand foreigners , can’t own anything here.So when he buys he will buy it on his wife name…a wife that he trusted Loved, suddenly takes all his money and everything that he owned..and she took it from her husband.after she takes everything that he owns, he is homeless and begging for money on the streets and asking people to help him to fly back to his country…because his Thailand wife did this to him…I saw this in Bangkok..seeing this foreign man begging for money on the streets of BBK.
and i hear so many stories same like this….so Thai women are not only good..but also have many dark sides too…they can be LIERS.so watch out..for survival.
I hear many men sleep with Thai women..cause this is what people get programmed with..but from Go go bar girl to prostitute, to real Lawyer, real doctor, up class girls..all ask for money after sex..either it is for fun, one night stand..or prostitute, go go bar girl…this so many men have told me.
Also i have a relationship with my Bf since 2 years back..now when we go out to a club..what happens..ok let me tell you.
As soon as they see my boyfriend, many ladies dance around him and flirting with him, touching him…and me standing next to him..they dont even care.I feel they are nasty, envious, jealous women with no values, or caring about if they meet 2 people in love…No ..they don’t care at all if 2 people in love split up…no values, respect or caring at all for them self or others.
so Thailand has also Ugly truth’s..not only good truth …like every where else in this world.
Thai women or Thailand is not more special than any other country or better..no
I been living around the world and actually i find the Japanese people are the best…Geniuses and filled with wisdom.
Japanese women are also like Thai ladies serving the men..but they are deep and intelligent…not only thinking about money,.
sex and enjoy..NO..Japanese women are very kind and balanced ..they would not cut a mans dick cause he cheated.
.every body has negative and positive.
life is about balance…Thanks.
Thank you.. this is really well written, and I appreciate it very much.. I’m not sure at all, as an American, that a Thai partner is in my future, but I certainly appreciate what you shared ! Thank you again ! 🙂
Thanks for stopping by, hope you find someone that makes you happy 🙂
Thank you to write this article. You can explain well about Thai women and our culture,, that because you get an experience by yourself and learn to know without negative. I am sorry for some men to get bad experience from Thai women, will be women from any counties that have good and bad. If you find good Thai women that can answer your questions in your mind. No one can tell you unless you get it experience by yourself, but you can keep what others experience considerations what is true or not. To find gems you have to go in place where is gems. As well, gravel is everywhere.
This was story of me with someone i love from England. I was on dating site 2 years ago, I found someone and we take time to know each other 2 years. After a few day we know we closed account on dating site and continue contact everyday. We have argued most of time it’s because his trust issue. He always think i have contact other at the same time and can’t trust me enough… even i tried to show and prove him everything that i can do. He is very stubborn and guess everything, we are sad , upset and fight a lot. I truly know we love each other but he finally give up just reason i am far away. I lose him in while i tried so hard to show him all my commitment, my time , my love honest and loyal, he stop trying everything after year, but i still hope he will see and feels it. I never ask him for anything, just want to know his life in everyday. So i lose the person i love that we take time 2 years because his friends and people he know told him about bad Thai women in negative, even he never come to Thailand, he never know Thai people before, he judge me to be bad woman who want money and better life even i never ever ask him about money or his income. I have good job, i have education, i live life and take care myself. I just want to find the love of my life after my heart break from my Thai ex husband. So still in my mind why judge that you never come to Thailand and what i treat him can’t help him to be confident… I have try my best and just let him go.
Really sorry it ended that way 🙁
Long distance relationships are indeed hard because you’re constantly evaluating the state of the relationships. There is indeed a lot of negative stereotype on the internet. I really wish more people who’ve had a successful relationships would share their stories to bring balance to the madness that is on internet…
Don’t loose hope though. Better days are just around the corner…
What no one tells about Thailand.
So sorry, I will tell more about what you may not find in any other posts or books. I worked in Thailand for 4 years and that is the basis for my sharing this experience.
I completely disagree to this post about Thai woman. I will b a bit direct in this post, nothing racial but in general my experience in Thailand not as a white man but with black color skin.
All posts and books about Thai people or culture is written by only White Man, not a single Black or Color man has written any such posts. The experience may be totally different based on your most importantly Color, Origin, Gender etc. Ask a white lady, her experience may not be as pleasant as white man.
Its not white man who are in the first place behind the Thai girls. But in reality, Thai girls are behind White man, hence its easier choice for a White man to fall in love with Thai girl. If a women is behind a man, its easier than the other way around, simple law of nature. Imagine, how difficult is it for a white man to date white woman because they are demanding and will not compromise anything and everything because the guy is white in color. Same does not hold true for a Thai girl
Why a Thai lady prefers white man. Of course, as generally believed, white man is more respectful and I appreciate that after having travelled out to more than 20 countries in Asia, Africa and Europe. But surprisingly, Thai girls can take tolerate any amount of shout by a white man but not a small grievance of a black man. If a black man is 100% humble and respectful, still he does not get even 10% of what he deserves to get back. But for white man, if he is just say 10% respectful, he gets back 100%. Any reason, yes you guessed it right. Color
Go to streets, how obsessed Thai girls are about their appearance and skin color. They wanted entire body to be white and white including their private parts. You can see, all the whitening creams are sold like hot cakes in this country.
In some bars, blacks and colors are not even allowed to enter, I refer specific ones in Soi Cowboy. They are still in medieval period mentality which used to state “Dogs and Blacks are not allowed”
Any child from their birth, is taught by their mother on how important is to look good. Look good means being white in color. Education is rarely given importance hence no wonder even the most educated lots still have same mind set as the one in the bar.
For Thai girl, Beauty = White, White = God, God =Worship so Beauty = Worship or White = Worship. That simple.
To become English teacher in Thailand, you must be white. If you are African American you cannot teach English because of your skin color. However if you come from Spain with little knowledge of English, Thai’s will look up on the Spanish guy to teach them English.
I know a dark skinned Canadian waiting in beauty parlour was not given her turn but other white ladies who were behind her in the queue were offered chance before her. You still expect this dark skinned lady to keep quiet. If she raises her concern, she is being told that she is unreasonable due to her skin color.
Of course, I came across few Thai girls who did not have such color or racial, at least after knowing that you are a kind hearted and generous person. But its becoming rare and rare to find such a person in Thailand.
Overall, I would never in my life wish to go to Thailand and not be even willing to visit as a tourist.
Only pray to god that people come back to their normalcy.
This by far is one of the best heads up articles or posts about a foreign mane like myself dating a Thai woman or one traditional and sincere one from any other Asian country for that matter! Your post is very dignified respectful, and downright intelligent! It gives a very good picture on what to expect in a relationship with a Thai woman! Thank you!
I feel my other half lies in Southeast Asia! After not have good experience with
Filipino girls, I am trying my luck with Thailand. I am happy! To be honest , I have registered for a site of Thailand girls. I immediately felt I will find her there!
I read some of the profiles which seem to incorporate a buddhist philosophy>
I am touched! I feel somethings we just know . I also think the heart knows what it wants!
So sorry about your guy. No offense sometimes older guys can be insecure, especially maybe in long distance relationships! You seem solid! Independent, confident, and pretty in your way! You my friend are a crown jewel! Please Stay true to yourself ! Many good guys are still around.
Take care
Thank you for your post..its an act of kindness that will bring you love someday!
Go Thailand!
Thomas
thomas
What no one tells about Thailand.
So sorry, I will tell more about what you may not find in any other posts or books. I worked in Thailand for 4 years and that is the basis for my sharing this experience.
I completely disagree to this post about Thai woman. I will b a bit direct in this post, nothing racial but in general my experience in Thailand not as a white man but with black color skin.
All posts and books about Thai people or culture is written by only White Man, not a single Black or Color man has written any such posts. The experience may be totally different based on your most importantly Color, Origin, Gender etc. Ask a white lady, her experience may not be as pleasant as white man.
Its not white man who are in the first place behind the Thai girls. But in reality, Thai girls are behind White man, hence its easier choice for a White man to fall in love with Thai girl. If a women is behind a man, its easier than the other way around, simple law of nature. Imagine, how difficult is it for a white man to date white woman because they are demanding and will not compromise anything and everything because the guy is white in color. Same does not hold true for a Thai girl
Why a Thai lady prefers white man. Of course, as generally believed, white man is more respectful and I appreciate that after having travelled out to more than 20 countries in Asia, Africa and Europe. But surprisingly, Thai girls can take tolerate any amount of shout by a white man but not a small grievance of a black man. If a black man is 100% humble and respectful, still he does not get even 10% of what he deserves to get back. But for white man, if he is just say 10% respectful, he gets back 100%. Any reason, yes you guessed it right. Color
Go to streets, how obsessed Thai girls are about their appearance and skin color. They wanted entire body to be white and white including their private parts. You can see, all the whitening creams are sold like hot cakes in this country.
In some bars, blacks and colors are not even allowed to enter, I refer specific ones in Soi Cowboy. They are still in medieval period mentality which used to state “Dogs and Blacks are not allowed”
Any child from their birth, is taught by their mother on how important is to look good. Look good means being white in color. Education is rarely given importance hence no wonder even the most educated lots still have same mind set as the one in the bar.
For Thai girl, Beauty = White, White = God, God =Worship so Beauty = Worship or White = Worship. That simple.
To become English teacher in Thailand, you must be white. If you are African American you cannot teach English because of your skin color. However if you come from Spain with little knowledge of English, Thai’s will look up on the Spanish guy to teach them English.
I know a dark skinned Canadian waiting in beauty parlour was not given her turn but other white ladies who were behind her in the queue were offered chance before her. You still expect this dark skinned lady to keep quiet. If she raises her concern, she is being told that she is unreasonable due to her skin color.
Of course, I came across few Thai girls who did not have such color or racial, at least after knowing that you are a kind hearted and generous person. But its becoming rare and rare to find such a person in Thailand.
Overall, I would never in my life wish to go to Thailand and not be even willing to visit as a tourist.
Only pray to god that people come back to their normalcy.
Don’t give up on us. Not all men are like he was. Some of our men have had bad experiences with our women here causing trust issues. After losing trust like it sounds like he has, it is really hard to gain that trust back again with someone new. Hang in there. There is a good man out there that would love you and treat you with respect that you deserve.
Hello to All Lovely Thai ladies:
2 Years ago I lost my wife of 47 years, we never spent a day apart and we were always affectionate in public and other wise, hold hand, arm around waste, lots of kissing.
I have looked at women everywhere and Thai ladies appear to be very similar to her but NOT her. I enjoyed learning about my future wife traits and much more. I am older and mature I have a small pension that would support us in Thailand, I am not wealthy or rich, but I find I like the traits of Thai women, strong, good providers, strong family ties, I am of European decent but I come a matriarchal family background. I would like to ask some one from the South of Thailand (I love the ocean and beaches) if they would have time or interest in assisting me to understanding the many different do’s and don’ts of finding my Thai bride, help me understand the customs and living in Thailand, I under stand the retirement status is changing as well as medical insurance. So current accurate information would be greatly appreciated. Or could admin direct me to the proper site.
I do to want to place my email here perhaps Admin can help you or
I will return here at a future point
Thank you all in advance
While I happen to know more than most Americans about Asian Culture and Religion, this was very informative and extremely helpful. I am a Male, Caucasian and 57 yrs old. Ever since I was a young Man I’ve always been drawn to Asian Women. Especially Tia Women. Thank you for posting this article. I hope that one day soon I am able to travel to Thailand in search of the right girl to spend my remaining years with.
I just realized autocorrect messed up the word Taiwanese to Tai. Sorry for the mistake.
Thinks that’s man is are doesn’t worst for you as he is dose not listen to his heart but in stead he is listen to his friends , you better fine someone else who care for you and love you and not think that’s you after their money…
Sorry about your relationship not works out. Some men have emotional scars from other women & have trouble to trust again. Its not your fault, you didn’t do anything. You can tell him, but it looks too late. Look for a farang that at least comes to Thailand, it shows a desire for commitment. Choke Dee, sweetheart. 🙂
Lovely post! It revealed so much truth about us. Thailand girls are just unique in virtually all ways; friendly and respectful, there is just no doubt about that. Good to read, quite interesting.
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